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Wonderfully Done, a wholesome show about sex, communication and loving yourself. Lauren & Vix share regular opinions and advice for all your curious questions about sex, relationships, love and everything in between. This is an explicitly shame-free, supportive space. If you have a burning question, we would love to hear it! Slide into our DMs with your questions @donewonderfully on Twitter, or slip us an anonymous message at curiouscat.qa/wonderfullydone
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Tuesday Mar 23, 2021
Tuesday Mar 23, 2021
Saddle up cuties - today we’re talking about Unicorns! 🦄
Babysodes break away from our usual format, and explore something that tickles our fancy - such as an interview, discussing a particular topic of interest, or playing games.
In this episode we discuss:
- Unicorns - what are they?
- Unicorn culture - the good, the bad & the ugly
- Tips for being a good, respectful ‘unicorn hunter’
- Tips for a safer, better unicorn experience
- How to be them, and find them!
Content and tools mentioned in this episode:
Book Recommendation:
The Ethical Slut
- English non-fiction book by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
- This is often suggested as a first read for Polyamory
- Take with a grain of salt
Dating apps through the lens of seeking threesomes:
Feeld app
- Used to be called Thrinder
- Kink and sexual encounter focused
- You can connect your profile with your partners
- People are pretty upfront with their specific sexual or kink related desires, which can make screening a little easier!
OkCupid
- More common to see non-monogamy & queerness explicitly on profiles
- Robust information on profiles
- You can connect your profile with your partners
Tinder
- Largest pool of selection, but less clear who is open to different lifestyles or their openness to it
- Since a recent update, you can connect your profile with your partners
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Lots of love,
Lauren and Vix 💋
Monday Mar 01, 2021
Monday Mar 01, 2021
Hello, sweet angels! Today we’re here with none other than Nikki Darling, Australia's first gender-free sexual health and pleasure purveyors. We LOVE this online adult store, and jumped at the chance to interview the amazing owner - a fellow Lauren!
We’ve been blessed with a cheeky little discount code for our listeners - just enter WonderfullyDone at checkout for 10% off your first Nikki Darling order! 😍
Our fabulous conversation includes:
- Insights into the daily life of running a sexual pleasure and health store
- Inclusive practice and communication around sex toys
- Trends in 2020 and predictions for 2021 (aka ‘the TikTok effect’)
- The challenges of growing a sexual brand in an increasingly sex-negative world
- Collecting and curating vintage and modern sex toys
- Recommendations for sexy resources and learning
And so much more!
Mentioned in this episode:
Carol Queen, Ph D
Louise Bourchier MPH
Cyndi Darnell (The Atlas of Erotic Anatomy and Arousal)
Go forth and follow Nikki Darling!
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Twitter: @donewonderfully
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Lots of love,
Lauren and Vix 💋
Sunday Feb 07, 2021
Sunday Feb 07, 2021
The season of LOVE has begun as we march towards February 14th, Valentine's Day! With our deep fascination in all things dating and sex, we’d be remiss if we didn’t share some robust chats about this polarising holiday!
Babysodes break away from our usual format, and explore something specific that tickles our fancy - such as an interview, discussing a particular topic of interest, or playing games.
In this episode we discuss:
- A brief history on the origins of Valentine's Day
- Figuring out how to give good gifts to please your sweetie(s)
- Navigating one person liking Valentine's while the other hates it
- Why Valentine's Day shouldn't be the only day you’re extra romantic with partner(s)
- Creative date ideas to break away from the classic ‘dinner and drinks’ combo
- Our very own Valentine's Day plans!
We’re absolutely big sluts for Valentine’s and would LOVE to hear your thoughts about it! Please especially feel free to share your best Valentine’s OR your plans for this year here!
Ps. If you have a friend you think might enjoy our show, please share it with them - it would mean a lot to us!
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Twitter: @donewonderfully
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Lots of love,
Lauren and Vix 💋
Monday Feb 01, 2021
Monday Feb 01, 2021
Why hello there, lovely listeners! We’re here to bless your ears with the dulcet tones of Queen Olivia Lucretia-Bourgeois Connie St Redfern III (a.k.a Connie), one of New Zealand's 10 most Iconic Drag Queens!
Lauren sat down for an interview with this marvelous friend of the show, and discussed topics including:
- Having sex in drag: yay or nay?
- Generational differences in the culture and scene
- Intersections between drag, gender and sexual identity
- Inclusivity and experiences as a nonbinary ‘genderfuck’ bearded drag queen
- Transferring knowledge and education before and after the internet
And so much more!
Content warning: This interview includes discussions of homophobia, and a mention of catcalling and assault.
Go forth and follow them!
Twitter - @queenoliviastr
Website - https://thequeenolivia.com/
Listen to more of Connie’s wonderful life adventures and subscribe to Small Stories in a Big Country.
Mentioned in this episode:
The Bombay Bombshell teaches drag dance classes at Pump Dance Studios
Rainbow Story Times - Celebrating diversity and rainbow families, with stories read in the library by Wellington’s Kings and Queens!
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Lots of love,
Lauren and Vix 💋
Tuesday Jan 19, 2021
Tuesday Jan 19, 2021
Prepare for cheerful chaos and hard love - we’re back with another round of Seven Minutes in Heaven!
In these special episodes we answer at least four listener questions, but each question only gets seven minutes. A quickie, if you will. ;)
The topics we cover in this episode include:
- Online sexting buds disappearing
- Check-ins on flirt welcomeness
- Long-term mismatched libido
- Challenges with flirting on the spectrum
Creators mentioned in this episode:
Article Recommendation:
Sexual Currency
- Article by Swell - from Dame Wellness Dot Come
- What is Sexual Currency? The article describe it as:
‘ Anytime we hug, kiss, rub, squeeze, and nuzzle into a romantic partner, there is an erotic charge. This comes from the sexual relationship that exists between couples.. Sexual currency is a little different from physical affection. It is sexually charged touch that has erotic meaning.’ - Loved this article it’s a great reminder that keeping a saucy fire going in our relationships is work, FUN WORK, that we can make lots of little investments into
- Could be particularly helpful to anyone experiencing low libido in their relationship
Instagram Post Recommendation:
Topic: Relationships with different neurotypes
- Stevie Writes shares neat things on kink, non-monogamy, Autism, sexuality and gender on their Instagram
- Really wow concept to see specified and to really sit and consider how this affects our perceptions coming together in communications and our experience of our reality
- The idea that our realities are all different - our perception is not reality - it is a version of it
- Especially loved this:
‘'Getting comfortable with the ideas that difference can be met with curiosity and not condemnation is powerful work'
Instagram Recommendation:
- Amazing trauma-informed sex therapist
- Spoke on an Instagram Live about having a maz (masturbate) on top of your bedcovers while naked, rather than covering yourself up, staying clothed etc. By seeing ourselves in a slightly more embodied way, we can create micro-moments of body acceptance and appreciation. We challenge our dear listeners to give this a try!
Resource Recommendation:
- A great reflection tool to help me let go of a hard year, and set me up for the new one
- We are both filling this out this year (Lauren has done hers already ofc)
Connect with us!
Our Website: www.wonderfullydone.show
Facebook: Wonderfully Done
Twitter: @donewonderfully
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Lots of love,
Lauren and Vix
Monday Jan 04, 2021
Monday Jan 04, 2021
Woah there, it’s the first Wonderfully Done episode of 2021!
The topics we cover in this episode includes:
- Showing appreciation for fat bodies without being a creepy-creep
- Discussing the ‘curvy wife guy’ internet moment
- Shame around appearance preferences
- Feelings around dating and sexuality as a fat woman
- Expressing desire respectfully
- How to approach a pal with a friends-with-benefits proposal (without being decimated from embarrassment!)
Creators mentioned in this episode:
Podcast Episode Recommendation:
Are we allowed to have sex in space? Feat. Dr Shawna Pandya, Yvette Gonzalez and Dr Alex Layendecker
- TW: Sexual Assault approx after the 20 minute mark
- Episode of The Future of Sex Podcast interviewing three experts in space travel and sexuality
- Discussed lots of topics like:
- None of the space agencies out there are sharing data or research on sex or masturbation!
- What effects would space have on bodies, fluids and the mechanics of actually having sex?
- Listen to this episode on Spotify here
Toy Recommendation:
Lelo Sona 2
- Clit sucking toy, can also be used on nipples, or you know, EXPLORE ;)
- Has a really neat range of sucking patterns
- Step up from the Satisfyer Pro 2
- Be warned, some of the patterns are pretty intense!
Show Recommendation:
The Untamed
- Homoromantic Chinese fantasy drama on Netflix
- Warring family clans, centering around two men who have a great obsession and fascination with each other
- Excessively pretty men and gorgeous interiors!
- Reminds Lauren that context sets the intensity - she’ll read really explicit fanfic, but then watching this where everything is really understated, just the smallest stuff is like GASP!
- A relaxing, visually pleasing and slow watch
Tuesday Dec 15, 2020
Tuesday Dec 15, 2020
A big hello to you, our dearest sex nerds and romance sweeties!
The topics we cover in this episode include:
- Guilt around feeling the need to reciprocate the gift giving of a partner
- Ideas for how to keep a long distance relationship feeling fresh and spicy in these pandemic times where travel is off the cards
- What monsters we would like to fuck the very MOST
Creators mentioned in this episode:
Podcast Recommendation:
Why Won't You Date Me?
- Hosted by comedy genius Nicole Byer
- You may know Nicole from hosting ‘Nailed It’ on Netflix
- Her podcast is an entertaining exploration of why she is single, love, life, and sex
Podcast Episode Recommendation:
‘Advice from a Dating Coach - Damona Hoffman by Why Won’t You Date Me?’
- A juicy episode packed full of social analysis, vulnerability and concrete suggestions around dating in today’s world
- Listen on Spotify
Connect with us!
Our website: www.wonderfullydone.show
Twitter: @donewonderfully
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Lots of love,
Lauren and Vix
Monday Nov 30, 2020
Monday Nov 30, 2020
Happy Season Two, sweet beans! By popular request, we’re launching the season with more chats about bisexuality and non-monogamy. Hooray!
The topics we cover in this episode:
- Chatting through common fears for bisexual/pansexuals such as:
- The possibility of ‘uncontrollable desire’ in a straight-passing relationship
- Lack of experience anxiety
- Internalised biphobia
- The tricky dance of one partner wanting to be polyamorous, and the other partner feeling uncertain about opening up the relationship.
Creators mentioned in this episode:
Book Recommendation:
Pleasure Activism: The Politics of Feeling Good
- Written by by Adrienne Maree Brown
- A book exploring the power of pleasure in our lives, as a tool for self love and healing, social justice and so much more.
A few choice quotes:
“Your no makes the way for your yes. Boundaries create the container within which your yes is authentic. Being able to say no makes yes a choice.”
“Ultimately, love for the self is the deepest pleasure we deny ourselves. I work daily to be courageous enough to indulge in the purest pleasure of self-love.”
“We have been raised to fear the yes within ourselves, our deepest cravings. But, once recognized, those which do not enhance our future lose their power and can be altered. The fear of our desires keeps them suspect and indiscriminately powerful, for to suppress any truth is to give it strength beyond endurance. The fear that we cannot grow beyond whatever distortions we may find within ourselves keeps us docile and loyal and obedient, externally defined, and leads us to accept many facets of our oppression as women.”
Book Recommendation:
Opening Up - A Guide to Creating and Sustaining Open Relationships
- Written by Tristan Taormino
- Explores the real-life benefits and challenges of many styles of open relationships. Includes tips on dealing with jealousy, negotiating boundaries, communication etc.
Book Recommendation:
The Ethical Slut: A Guide to Infinite Sexual Possibilities
- Written by Dossie Easton and Janet Hardy
- Despite the first edition hitting the world in 1997, this book remains a go-to for those wanting to learn more about the world of open relationships with ourselves and others
Lots of love,
Lauren and Vix
Monday Oct 26, 2020
Monday Oct 26, 2020
Wonderfully Done is a wholesome show about sex, communication and loving yourself!
Sweet listeners! This is the final episode of Season One of Wonderfully Done! Wow! Seriously, thank you for being with us and sharing in this space. We thought we’d do something fun and fresh before taking a little season break!
In this episode, we revisit a game from our highschool days: Seven Minutes in Heaven. In our version, we’re answering four of your questions, but each question only gets seven minutes! This episode is chaos in the funnest of ways, and we absolutely plan for a round two!
The topics we cover are:
- How to be a total baddie, and the key to our personal confidence
- How to open the door to chatting about sex and relationships with your pals, and encouraging sex positive culture in groups
- How to recover after an unreturned affection from someone in the workplace
- Defining intimacy in the context of our relationships - ie. physical, emotional, etc
Creators Mentioned in this episode:
- Book Recommendation: ‘Sex and Social Media’
- Written by Katrin Tiidenberg (Tallinn University, Estonia) and Emily van der Nagel (Monash University, Australia)
- A juicy book exploring the intersection of sex & social media
- Lauren and Vix were both participants in the research for this book
- Buy your own copy of the book here: https://bit.ly/3gtMIHK
- Book Recommendation: ‘Love 2.0’ by Barbara L. Fredrickson
- It’s all about ‘Creating Happiness and Health in Moments of Connection’
- Really good, accessible, not too long! The idea that Love is made in moments and is frequent but recurring. Not a destination but a habit etc
- Website: https://www.positivityresonance.com/
- Artist Recommendation: Exotic Cancer
- A wicked awesome illustrator and stripper who is also based in Melbourne Australia! We adore her work!!!
- Website: https://exoticcancer.com/
- Instagram: https://www.instagram.com/exotic.cancer/
If you have a burning question or a topic you would like to hear our thoughts on, we would love to hear it!
Slide into our DMs with your questions @donewonderfully on Twitter, or slip us an anonymous message at curiouscat.qa/wonderfullydone!
Monday Oct 19, 2020
Monday Oct 19, 2020
Y’all seemed to enjoy Season One, so we’re making a Second Season, babes!
Frankly, we’ve been beyond delighted with the response to Wonderfully Done. When we set out to make this show, we had no idea we would receive such beautiful and heartfelt messages from our listeners.
For a brand spanking new season to be really fantastic, we need a bunch of new questions. This is where you come in!
In Season 2 we want to dig deeper into lots of juicy topics like:
- Pegging
- Crushes
- Kink exploration
- Communication challenges
- Body acceptance
But you can ask us about ANYTHING!
Questions are always read anonymously
Short or long, anything goes!
If you’ve wanted to send a topic and have felt nervous, we encourage you to be brave! We would love nothing more than to chat through your curious thoughts, feelings and questions.
How to share a question?
- Email us at wonderfullydoneshow@gmail.com
- DM @donewonderfully on Twitter
- Curious Cat - https://curiouscat.qa/WonderfullyDone
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We really want to take a moment to say how grateful we are for each and every one of you, whether you’ve listened to one episode, or every one we’ve made.